dirty talk thought process: bdsm blogs body image petpeeves thinking
by ammre
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my message
Miss Calico posted about her experience at Speak Up! this last weekend in NYC and in that post she mentioned that we all have messages. This lead me to think about what the hell my message could be and i came up with this.
I don’t want to be seen as a second class citizen in regards to sexuality becasue of my size. Fat people have sex! Fat people have good sex (bad sex too unfortunately). Fat people engage in alternative sexual activities. Fat people can be seen as attractive. Do NOT overlook us.
The MAJOR representation I see of fat people in the BDSM context is in that idea that only the scary old fat people go to dungeons. We are not shown in the greater kink media unless it directly correlated with a fat specific kink. (feeders, crushing, big asses)
I don’t want to be sex’s dirty secret.
Edit to add: I jsut read Mollena’s fat fant and I have to say I love that woman. had I read it an hour ago I would have jsut linked you all there.
[...] Ammre writes about how fat women are portrayed within the BDSM scene. And now it is us that can spread the message that, yes, fat women are in the scene, and yes, we have awesome bondage and impact and rope and other sadistic scenes. And we even have awesome sex! [...]
I really dislike the idea that BDSM is for the skinny people. Actually, because of the age of most BDSM players, we tend to be slightly larger than the “average” person. But, all the representations we are have are of thinner women.
Fuck that. I want my porn to be as real as my sex, I want my bdsm porn to be as real as my BDSM life